What smell is it that transports you most quickly back to another time and place? Since I’m determined to be honest on this site, I’ll tell you that a certain men’s cologne brings me right back to the side of my “first love.” I don’t even know what the cologne is, but I know it when I smell it. The reason smells are on my mind is that my home, which I’ll move out of in two weeks, has lately smelled kind of unpleasant. Since there are babies with diapers here 24/7, I’ve been looking for some poopie diaper that didn’t make it to the trash can. But I haven’t identified the source yet.
This apartment smell isn’t nearly as stinky as the attitude I’ve had off and on lately. In general, I’m calm, cool, and collected. But I’m going through something with a certain 8-year-old that I need to get a new attitude about. I’ve decided that while it’s good to expect a lot out of children, I think I’ve been expecting too much out of Logan. There, I said it. I’ve been wrong!
I think my stinky attitude has been tied to that old nemesis of mine: Expectations. There are certain expectations that are okay, such as when training up children in the way they should go, such as regarding fulfilling one’s own responsibilities like a mature adult. But some expectations can lead to no good.
Relationships are frequently destroyed by that multi-syllable word: expectations. For instance, when you marry someone with the intention of changing them. Not good. When you expect people to read your mind, such as a spouse who doesn’t have a clue what you’re dreaming about as a special surprise for your birthday, even though you hinted several times. Not good. Come out and say what you mean. Guys don’t think the same way as gals.
Have you ever been in relationship with someone and you came to a place where you realized that your life would be much easier if you simply never have any expectations whatsoever of that person? Since they never do what it certainly seems they should, you just quit expecting anything. It saves you a lot of frustration but may also be an indication that the person, even if a family member, is creating a mysterious stench in your life and needs to be shown the door.
All this thought about smells and expectations got me to wondering what God expects of me today and how my life can be a sweet fragrance in his nostrils instead of a big stink. Here’s an answer from the Bible:
“The LORD has told you what is good,
and this is what he requires of you:
to do what is right, to love mercy,
and to walk humbly with your God.” From Micah 6:8
How awesome that God would lead me to the scripture, which convicts me about expecting too much from Logan. Because if I’m walking humbly before God, I will quit expecting more from others than what I harshly demand of myself. (I’m not very harsh with myself and my flaws!)
Hey, just realized that repentance produces a sweet smell, no matter what else hangs in the atmosphere. Nice!